My husband and I are both experiencing this with our families — new truth is coming forward about long ago times and far away places.
That’s the interesting thing about truth — it always comes out. Always. Sometimes it just takes 50 years.
As humans, we are always moving toward our highest and best selves. Sometimes we take detours or we step off the path to rest awhile but we are spiritually and biologically wired to grow. We just can’t help it.
And that’s why the truth always comes out. We simply can’t become our best selves when we are holding secrets, guilt or shame. In fact, research shows that holding them makes us sick — physically and emotionally.
I am grateful that truth is moving — I can see the lightness and healing that it’s bringing to many generations, both alive and passed. When one person heals, healing occurs both up and down the bloodline. We may suffer the sins of our fathers but we can heal them too.
I am also grateful that my generation has had more opportunity for healing work. I have benefited greatly from both therapy and coaching and my husband has too as have many of my dearest friends. I know that this allowed us to become more grounded, happier people, which makes us better parents. Our daughter, and others of her generation, are growing up in homes that are more conscious of human and spiritual growth.
This may sound funny, but the TV show Mad Men gave me some great understanding. It helped me deeply appreciate the times my parents lived in and the lack of consciousness that pervaded society. How could they possibly embrace healing work when the social norms prevented it? And how could they focus on child development when sexism was so rampant, controlling what thoughts and feelings they could have? Therapy was pretty barbaric back then, filled with Freudian analysis, shock treatment, and no privacy for women.
We have come a long way and that makes me very happy. It’s also why the truth can move now. Their generation is now free to also focus on healing and speak the truths that could not be named a few decades ago. When one person heals, more follow.
For this, I express deep gratitude and love for my family, both those affiliated by blood as well as spirit.
To support this process, on summer solstice, I am holding a healing ritual with my closest and trusted friends. We are coming together to intentionally speak words of love, healing, and release for all the members of our families, both alive and gone. We will speak the shame, and guilt and secrets that we know about for the purpose of bringing light and love to those dark places.
Consider what truth is moving, or needs to move, in your family. How can you embrace your own work to get things moving? And how can you support the release of old hurts to bring in light and love? If you feel so inspired, celebrate the solstice with a healing ritual of your own.